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The Garden of Happiness The Garden of Happiness in relationships takes tending. A relationship, like a garden is a growing, constantly transforming entity. Not only does it need daily watering, even if only a little. However, daily watering alone does not maintain a healthy garden. For those with the wisdom of gardening, they too know that a garden needs more intense attention every two or three years. Whilst one season may bring a fine bloom of flowers and growth, over time the garden still needs occasional rotor-tilling and fertilizing. The initial work necessary to start the garden doesn't ever end. Sometimes we become enamored by your initial garden growth, and the beauty it experiences in the first two years. Wisdom tells us that we must return to more intense gardening every 2-3 years. So the work is never done. Even if you give up on one garden, and move to another, the work is still required. Weeds??? Every garden has them. If you don't pay attention to them, they will overtake your garden much like problems in a relationship. However, a notion even the most astute gardeners must keep in mind is the fact that weeds will always occur. Getting frustrated and angry at them does no good. Accept that fact that weeds occur, much like problems in our relationships. Relationship problems usually occur from issues that were seeded in our early years, prior to our relationship. Success in dealing with them is to recognize that they are part of the deal, much like the fact that weeds are a part of every garden. They usually pop up in the same place with regularity. If you enter into a relationship thinking no weeds exist, then you are living in the "Enchanted Forest". All fairy tails, like the enchanted forest don't exist. Success in a relationship comes from accepting the weeds along with the flowers. If as time goes on you get angry and impatient with most the weeds your partner possess, then conflict and discontent will rule your relationship. They usually existed before your communion as a couple, and only time and psycho-spiritual growth will eliminate a person's weeds. Problem is, you can't pull someone else's weeds, they must pull their own. In understanding this, realize that each individual has a different weed tolerance. So to project anger towards weeds that aren't yours will eventual end in a disharmonious garden. Rules of Gardening 1-Water your garden daily 2-Fertilize yearly 3-Rotor-till, fertilize, and recondition the soil every two to three years 4-Pay attention to your own weeds 5-Smell the roses !!!
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